{"id":9,"date":"2007-05-06T16:41:00","date_gmt":"2007-05-06T11:11:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attalim.ekhwan.com\/index.php\/2007\/05\/06\/parents-have-homework-too\/"},"modified":"2007-05-06T16:41:00","modified_gmt":"2007-05-06T11:11:00","slug":"parents-have-homework-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/taalim.ekhwan.com\/index.php\/2007\/05\/06\/parents-have-homework-too\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents Have Homework, Too"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\">&#8220;No gift is too costly (or too hard to obtain) for           a parent to give his child.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"> No parent would choose to give his or her child an inferior           gift, or a gift that would be harmful in any way. The gift of a good education           is a most valuable one. What can parents do to contribute their part to           this gift? The teachers (school) have one very important part. The child           has a very important part. Parents have an equally important part. Without           the parent&#8217;s part, the education will not measure up. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\">In short, parents have homework. The home is where it           all begins. Parents are the head of the home. The head of the home provides,           teaches, reinforces, and enforces. If the head of the home does not fulfill           its obligations, no other agency can fill in the gap. The child carries           with him\/her everything that is absorbed in the home. First of all, parents           must supply the basic needs of the infant, including food, shelter, clothing,           love, and security. By the time the child has reached school age, parents           have done lots and lots of &#8220;homework.&#8221; However, the assignment           is just beginning. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\">When the child begins school, the parent&#8217;s role takes           on a new dimension, that of enhancing the &#8220;formal education.&#8221;           That is, the education that is provided by the school. A parent&#8217;s role           in the education of his child has many dimensions. A parent&#8217;s &#8220;homework&#8221;           carries with it many responsibilities. These responsibilities include           keeping the proper attitude toward education and school, supporting\/helping           your child, setting healthy priorities, consistency in discipline, rewards           and consequences, open communication, helping with work missed during           sickness, being active in school matters, and controlling your child&#8217;s           school attendance. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<div style=\"float: right;margin: 3px;\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\"><!--\ngoogle_ad_client = \"pub-1603832936106174\";\ngoogle_alternate_color = \"FFFFFF\";\ngoogle_ad_width = 180;\ngoogle_ad_height = 150;\ngoogle_ad_format = \"180x150_as\";\ngoogle_ad_type = \"text_image\";\ngoogle_ad_channel =\"\";\ngoogle_color_border = \"\";\ngoogle_color_link = \"\";\ngoogle_color_bg = \"\";\ngoogle_color_text = \"\";\ngoogle_color_url = \"\";\ngoogle_ui_features = \"rc:6\";\n\/\/--><\/script>\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\"\n  src=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\">\n<\/script><\/div><p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Attitude.<\/b> It begins with attitude. If you have           a positive attitude toward school in general, your child will also have           a positive attitude. If you have concerns about the school or the teacher,           be very careful how you voice these concerns in front of your child. Your           child will pick up on your attitude, adopt it as his or her own, and take           it to school. Negative and apathetic attitudes are at the root of a large           portion of discipline problems at school. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Support.<\/b> Your child cannot go it alone. When he           or she has a particular assignment that may require special help or supplies,           you are the one s\/he turns to for help. Be there with all the support           and help possible. There may come a time when your child will need extra           help on schoolwork. If you cannot provide this help, speak to your child&#8217;s           teacher about it. There may be some remedial materials, or the teacher           may be able to help you and your child work through the problem. You may           consider outside help, such as a tutor. Arranging the schedule in the           home to accommodate quality &#8220;homework&#8221; time\/place is one aspect           of support. Your child will need to feel secure in the fact that you will           be there helping. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Priorities.<\/b> In order for education to come out           on top, it must be given top priority. This must be a true commitment           in light of the many interesting and beneficial activities that are available           for the youngsters. These include sports, scouts, music\/dance lessons,           and other activities. Too many activities will bring down the educational           level of your child. This should be closely monitored during the school           year.<br \/>         Consistency. Whatever your methods of discipline, consequences, and household           management, consistency is the key. When you promise a consequence, follow           through. Be firm. Try not to be influenced by your child&#8217;s persuasive           tactics. Children consistently test authority. Be prepared to follow through           each time. Results, while not always immediate, will be forthcoming. Children           are just that &#8211; children. Although they are learning to accept some responsibility,           they are not yet adults, and should not be treated as such. This is their           time in life to learn things like consistency and priorities, and it is           your &#8220;homework&#8221; to instill these qualities in your child. Children           need to know that their poor choices create consequences. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Rewards and Consequences.<\/b> Worthwhile rewards may           help reinforce responsible actions. However, rewards do not have to be           in the form of costly material gifts. Rewards may be in the form of time           spent together, a special word of praise, or a chance to skip a chore.           Just let your child know how proud you are of him\/her. Consequences should           fit the misbehavior as much as possible, and should be done immediately,           when possible. Try not to become emotional when you discipline your child,           and be sure to let the incident go. &#8220;Forgive and forget.&#8221; If           you remain hostile toward your child after disciplining him\/her, you are           distancing yourself from your child. Make sure you are still &#8220;available&#8221;           to your child.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Communication with your child.<\/b> Talk with your           child. Listen to your child. Make casual comments about what he\/she is           saying to show that you are listening. Do not &#8220;put words&#8221; in           his\/her mouth about what went on in class. If your child has an unpleasant           story to tell you, do not make it worse for him\/her by becoming visibly           upset. This will only upset the child even more. Let your child tell the           story in his or her own way, in his or her own time. If you resort to           an &#8220;interrogation&#8221;, you will likely get the story from a biased           point of view. If the problem persists, call or write the teacher. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Communication with your child&#8217;s teacher.<\/b> Keep the           lines of communication open. Check your child&#8217;s agenda daily. This is           the teacher&#8217;s best method of communicating with you. Always go to the           teacher with any problems before going to the principal. You and the teacher           are on the same side &#8211; the side of your child. The teacher wants your           child to succeed. Make a friend of the teacher.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Missed Work.<\/b> If your child is absent due to an           illness, he or she may need extra attention from you in order to get caught           up on assignments missed. Your child most likely has a given number of           days to get the work done and turned in. If the illness is prolonged,           you may call the school for assignments, but be sure to make every effort           to see that the work is actually done. This extra effort on the part of           your child&#8217;s teachers is very time consuming, and the time is taken from           their planning or from their classes. This practice is one that is encouraged           if you plan to see that your child does the work. If you have an occasion           in which your child cannot complete a daily assignment because of a family           emergency, write a note to the teacher asking for a one day extension.           It is likely that your child will have consequences at school for missing           work. &#8220;Homework&#8221; for the parents is to instill the importance           of school assignments in your children. <\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"><b>Be involved.<\/b> Show your child that you want to be           involved in his or her school. Whenever you get notification of a school           meeting, or a school need, show that you are interested. Participate in           various activities at school. If there is a school event, show up with           your child.<br \/>         Child&#8217;s Attendance. You, as the parent have the power to control your           child&#8217;s attendance, including being on time. Poor attendance and tardiness           directly affect a child&#8217;s school success in numerous ways, emotionally           as well as scholastically. Please understand that signing out is the same           as being absent. Your child will miss vital instruction. Instruction continues           up until dismissal. When you sign your child out unnecessarily, you are           telling your child that school doesn&#8217;t matter. Restrict sign outs to sickness           of the child, or a true family emergency. &#8220;Homework&#8221; for you           as the parent is to keep your child in school.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size:100%;\"> Yes, parents have &#8220;homework&#8221;. Your homework           continues as long as you are responsible for your child. Without your           part, your child&#8217;s school experience will not be all that it can be. Together,           let&#8217;s prepare the &#8220;Gift&#8221; of education for your child!<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">        <span style=\"font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:85%;\">\u00a9 Copyright 1998           Sybil Humphries. <\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;No gift is too costly (or too hard to obtain) for a parent to give his child.&#8221; No parent would choose to give his or her child an inferior gift, or a gift that would be harmful in any way. The gift of a good education is a most valuable one. 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